In The Pursuit Of Happiness

The average human lifespan varies depending on factors such as geographical location, gender, genetics, lifestyle choices, and access to healthcare. However, for the sake of estimation, let's assume an average lifespan is around 80 years. In terms of weeks, there are approximately 52 weeks in a year. Multiplying 52 weeks by 80 years gives us 4,160 weeks. Now imagine how quickly from beginning to end in the big scheme of eternity one will fly through this time around. Literally, it is not even a blink in time. My goal here is to put into perspective how much time we have to work on this thing called happiness. For some, you are still in the early stages of this timeline and for others we’ve realized how quickly our opportunity in our human suit moves along in the pursuit of happiness.

Happiness, which may seem like a deep and very subjective topic, isn't something external that we need to pursue; rather, I think we would agree that it is already present within each of us, just waiting to be rediscovered and embraced. In the busy tapestry of life, one thread weaves through every human experience and that is our  common pursuit of happiness. From ancient philosophers to modern psychologists, happiness has been a subject of fascination and inquiry, a quest that transcends time and culture. But what does it truly mean to pursue happiness, and why is it such a fundamental aspect of our human condition?

In all religious texts, happiness is described as a state of well-being, contentment, and fulfillment. It covers a range of positive emotions, from joy and gratitude to peace and satisfaction. While happiness may manifest differently for each of us, its appears its essence lies in finding meaning, purpose, and a sense of connection with oneself and the world. Many of us however may fall into the trap of seeking happiness through external means - wealth, success, possessions, and approval from others because we are conditioned to be doers. We believe that once we achieve certain goals or acquire specific material goods, we'll finally be happy. When I land the perfect job, or relationship I will be happy.  However, this pursuit often leads to a cycle of only temporary gratification followed by a sense of emptiness and longing for something more or the next thing.  This is the illusion of external fulfillment.

Intellectually, we know on some levels that true happiness is not found in external circumstances but in the depths of our being but how do we embody it, how do we feel it? Being happy is found in the experiences along a journey of self-discovery, self-acceptance, and self-love. It's about aligning our actions with our values, nurturing meaningful relationships, and finding fulfillment in the present moment. This is the inner journey.

Life is inherently unpredictable, and imperfect, challenges and setbacks are inevitable. Instead of striving for perfection or avoiding discomfort, we can learn to embrace life's imperfections, finding beauty in vulnerability, resilience in adversity, and growth in all experience. By being consciously present in most moments we are practicing mindfulness, this simple yet powerful practice teaches us to pay attention to the present moment with openness, curiosity, and acceptance.

Gratitude and mindfulness are powerful practices that can enhance our experience of happiness. By focusing on what we have rather than what we lack, practicing gratitude opens our hearts to abundance and appreciation for life's blessings. Mindfulness, on the other hand, invites us to claim more presence in each moment, savoring the richness of our experiences and letting go of worries about the past or future and that for most of us humans is our challenge. 

Happiness is deeply intertwined with a sense of purpose and meaning in life. When we engage in activities that align with our values, contribute to the well-being of others, and make a positive impact on the world, we experience a profound sense of fulfillment and joy. It’s in these values, purpose and meaning that we can find the guidance that leads us back to our “True North.” over and over again. When we are existing in the past, or the future with our minds we are out of the present and being in the “sweet spot” of the present is where we can find contentment. Existing in peace within the noise of the brain is “happiness by design”.

We all know that the pursuit of happiness is not a destination but a eternal journey. It's about continuously learning, growing, and evolving as individuals. It invites us to embrace the ebb and flow of life, celebrating moments of joy, navigating challenges with resilience, and finding happiness in the journey itself.

In our endless pursuit of happiness, let’s  embrace the full spectrum of human emotions, cultivating inner peace, and living authentically and wholeheartedly, finding happiness in the ordinary, the extraordinary, and everything and every moment in between.

So, here's to the pursuit and the  journey, may it be filled with moments of laughter, love, growth, and profound happiness.

Stay Well,

XO Donna